Every relationship has its ups and downs. There are days where everything goes well with big smiles all around and then there are days where you can hardly tolerate the presence of the other person.
When we talk about a relationship, people mostly imagine it to be a romantic one only. A relationship isn’t just about romance, it is any deep rooted bond that exists between two or more people. It can be within a family, between a parent and a child, among siblings or between two childhood friends or even lovers.
All relations have a few recognizable emotions, from love to mutual respect and admiration. Whenever an argument arises, these positive emotions give birth to the most evil ones which lessens the trust and understanding. Let us cover 7 tips that will help you resolve conflicts without causing any lifelong mental scars.
Find the Problem That Requires Attention
Oftentimes there is an underlying issue that is behind any relationship conflict. This conflict will come out every once in a while, even if it’s not being said out loud. The underlying problem begins to show itself when you don’t pay direct attention to it. In some cases this might come out as sarcastic comments or unnecessary banter about a particular situation.
Once you realize what you’re being salty about, don’t keep the realization to yourself. Instead, this is the time for you to come forward and express your concerns clearly to your partner. “Communication is key.” No matter how old this saying might be, it still ticks all the right boxes. It’s the basic requirement of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Don’t just sit in the corner while playing with the mha quirk generator, instead, communicate. Even when you’re unable to figure out the reason for your conflict, asking your partner is always a good way to start the conversation.
Don’t be the only one speaking. The whole concept of a conflict is miscommunication. And when you try to resolve this issue by pouring your heart out without listening to your partner, it can make them feel unheard. And there comes another conflict. Instead, there must be an equal partnership between the two of you, even in the conversations and arguments you have. If you’ve blaming your partner for something, you must give them a chance to say their part. The same goes around when you’re in the spotlight.
Ask the Right Questions
Don’t let the situation stress you out. Start by asking the right questions to get the situation resolved. How can we make things better? What did you not appreciate about what I said? Why didn’t you say this earlier? There are so many right questions you can ask in this situation and unfortunately even more wrong questions.
Acceptance Is Key
You may not feel at fault, your partner might be in the same boat. However, accepting that you might’ve been wrong somewhere is a place to start. We’re not saying, take the blame for something you didn’t do. But a conflict is the result of mutual aggression and miscommunication. You can start by accepting that and then work towards making things better.
Work on Forgiveness
You might accept some faults, your partner will own up to others. But the conflict isn’t over until you accept their apologies and work on forgiving them. Them, and yourself.
Remember That You Love Each Other
At the end of the day, the two of you love each other and that’s what the relationship is based on. Despite miscommunication and conflicts, you must learn to let things go and prioritize a healthy relationship over anything else. This means that sometimes you might have to completely ignore the whale situations, in other cases, end it at a discussion or confrontation. Not every conflict must turn into a full fledged argument or war of the two sides. It might seem hard at the moment. But remember, it’s you and them against the world not you and them against each other.